Masculinity-Movies blog

RSS Feed fix

posted by Eivind on March 8, 2011, at 7:59 pm

Hey guys,

I was made aware this weekend that there hasn’t been a link to a sitewide RSS feed on my site earlier. I have fixed that now. I hope it will make it easier for you to follow my work.

Check the button in the sidebar or get the RSS feed here.

Beautiful short film on love

posted by Eivind on February 23, 2011, at 8:55 pm

This little piece totally got to me. Danny is such a Lover.

More stories like this on the StoryCorps website.

On archetypal shadow systems

posted by Eivind on February 22, 2011, at 10:43 pm

I have been paying some attention to what’s going on in North Africa these days. First Mubarak and now Gadhafi. Gadhafi is insane to the point of going to war with his own people. Now, clearly these are King archetypes on the active side of the shadow system. We know them as Tyrants.

I have been thinking lately about how most Western men seem to be more prone to passive shadow expressions. We collapse into the Weakling King, the Masochist Warrior, the Innocent Magician, and the Impotent Lover. The number of Tyrants in the West is miniscule compared to the number of Weaklings, especially in the younger generations.

These thoughts combined with my reflections on Gadhafi today made me wonder if there is a connection between the dominant gender and men’s shadow configurations. My claim is that women are the dominant gender in the West today. Most of society is defined relative to a woman’s and not a man’s perspective. Mothers, in general, exert much more influence on men than do their fathers. So the men collapse into the passive shadow expressions.

In societies where fathers are the most dominant, however, I think that men are  more likely to express active shadow expressions. Clearly, Libya and Egypt are such socities.

This is a thought which is new to me and it may benefit from being somewhat “refined”. What do you guys think?

Introducing the KWML archetypes: The Warrior

posted by Eivind on February 20, 2011, at 1:10 pm

After a long wait, the video for the Warrior archetype is finally ready. (note that the 3-4 first minutes drag on a bit and then it gets more fun)

This video was recorded at the same time as the video for the King archetype (in Holland, December 2010) with Peter Kessels and Pelle Billing as my audience. I learned a lot by watching myself and receiving feedback from you after releasing that one and I would have done this video on the Warrior differently and more structured if I had a chance to redo the take. But I’m going to release it anyway, warts and all, and hope that it helps some of you. It has certainly helped me to record it.

I will record the Magician at the beginning of March. I will take whatever feedback you have offered me for the King and the Warrior (below) into consideration when doing that one.

I have also opened a discussion of this movie in the KWML group of The Masculinity Movies Tribe. I invite you all to participate there.


  1. When I speak about sadomasochism at one point in the movie, I speak about the total shadowcomplex of the Warrior archetype. I’m not referring to the sexual deviation.
  2. When I refer to the mother being present in the relationship of a man with poor internal warriors, I don’t refer to her physical presence. I refer to the presence of a limiting feminine force inside the relationship that can be traced to the man’s relationship to his mother.
  3. In one section, I refer to the presence of shadow Warrior in environmental activist groups, new agers etc. I can, however, think of healthy Warrior energy in these organizations, especially environmental ones. Greenpeace and Sea Shepherd come to mind, even though I don’t really know them at all. (would be nice with feedback about this below)

On the topic of rejection

posted by Eivind on February 16, 2011, at 9:02 pm

Dropped by a pub on the way from work today. Turned out the girl behind the bar was a girl I had connected quite strongly with some weeks previously. She was there with some cute friends. She expressed her appreciation for our connection by serving me for free. And I had a fairly decent connection with her friends as well.

Though I left the place feeling really dissatisfied. Actually, I felt rejected. Strange thing to feel I thought to myself. It got me thinking that feelings of rejection never have anything to do about anything outside of ourselves. It’s missing the point completely. Feelings of rejection arise when something authentic arises inside of ourselves and we choose not to act on or voice it.

That’s what happened today. I wasn’t present enough to really tune into my curiosity about these girls, so I kept it pretty safe and surface. My soul never appreciates that. There was so much I wanted to know that evaded me in moments when I wasn’t fully settled in myself.

There’s a lot of wisdom here for me. If I feel unhappy or depressed, it’s always because I’m out of alignment with my authentic Self, or my Soul if you will. There were things about these girls that I wasn’t aware of being curious about until after leaving the place. But on a deeper level, I knew.

Through feelings we label “bad”, we are always given exactly the information we need to be authentic. This human machine we inhabit is so amazing – we always get exactly the information we need to be absolutely blissful. The unhappiness arises in our rejections of the “bad” psychic material, which are nothing but perfectly crafted signposts that lead towards our authentic selves (joy is found there).

Feelings of rejection, depression, vague feelings of unease – always, ALWAYS these are treasures posing as shit. Our happiness comes in embracing the shit, because it’s always friggin’ gold. So I’m just going to sit with the ways in which I rejected myself now. Everything forever perfect. I make things so fucking complicated.