— Yuri Orlov, Lord of War (2005)Often the most barbaric atrocities occur when both sides proclaim themselves freedom fighters.
— Miles, Sideways (2004)Half my life is over, and I have nothing to show for it...I’m a smudge of excrement on a tissue, surging out to sea with a ton of raw sewage.
— Miranda, Mrs. Doubtfire (1993)Miranda (to Daniel): I bring home a birthday cake and a few gifts; you bring home the Goddamn San Diego Zoo. And I have to clean up after it!
— William & Malcolm Wallace, Braveheart (1995)Young William: I can fight. Malcolm Wallace: I know. I know you can fight. But it's our wits that make us men.
— King Longshank, Braveheart (1995)Not the archers. My scouts tell me their archers are miles away and no threat to us. Arrows cost money. Use up the Irish. The dead cost nothing.
— Lars & Gus, Lars and the Real Girl (2007)Lars: Well, Bianca can help you. She's got nurse's training. Gus: No she doesn't. That's because she's a plastic...thing. Lars: That's amazing. Did you hear that? Bianca said God made her to help people.
— Gen. Omar Bradley, Patton (1970)Give George a headline, and he's good for another 30 miles.
— Patton, Patton (1970)(looking at remains of a battle) I love it! God help me, I love it so. I love it more than my life.
— Miles, Sideways (2004)If you don't have money at my age, you're not even in the game anymore. You're just a pasture animal waiting for the abattoir.
— Ron Franz, Into the Wild (2007)When you forgive, you love. And when you love, God's light shines on you.
— Parry, The Fisher King (1991)I have a hard-on for you the size of Florida!
— John Keating, Dead Poets Society (1989)The powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse. What will your verse be?
— Quintus & Maximus, Gladiator (2000)Quintus: "People should know when they're beaten!" Maximus: "Would you, Quintus? Would I?"
— Maximus, Gladiator (2000)I've seen much of the rest of the world. It is brutal and cruel and dark, Rome is the light.
— Jake Sully, Avatar (2009)All I ever wanted was a single thing worth fighting for.
— Patton, Patton (1970)No bastard ever won a war by dying for his country. You win a war by making the other poor bastard die for his country!
— Katsumoto & Nathan Algren, The Last Samurai (2003)Katsumoto: Do you believe a man can change his destiny? Algren: I think a man does what he can, until his destiny is revealed to him.
— Christopher McCandless, Into the Wild (2007)I read somewhere... how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong... but to feel strong.
— Christopher McCandless, Into the Wild (2007)The core of man's spirit comes from new experiences.
— Lester Burnham, American Beauty (1999)Look at me, jerking off in the shower... This will be the high point of my day; it's all downhill from here.
— Jack Lucas, The Fisher King (1991)I'm hearing horses! Parry will be so pleased!
— John Keating, Dead Poets Society (1989)Gather ye rosebuds while ye may, Old Time is still a-flying: And this same flower that smiles to-day To-morrow will be dying.
— Yuri Orlov, Lord of War (2005)Often the most barbaric atrocities occur when both sides proclaim themselves freedom fighters.
— Miles, Sideways (2004)Half my life is over, and I have nothing to show for it...I’m a smudge of excrement on a tissue, surging out to sea with a ton of raw sewage.
— Miranda, Mrs. Doubtfire (1993)Miranda (to Daniel): I bring home a birthday cake and a few gifts; you bring home the Goddamn San Diego Zoo. And I have to clean up after it!
— William & Malcolm Wallace, Braveheart (1995)Young William: I can fight. Malcolm Wallace: I know. I know you can fight. But it's our wits that make us men.
— King Longshank, Braveheart (1995)Not the archers. My scouts tell me their archers are miles away and no threat to us. Arrows cost money. Use up the Irish. The dead cost nothing.
— Lars & Gus, Lars and the Real Girl (2007)Lars: Well, Bianca can help you. She's got nurse's training. Gus: No she doesn't. That's because she's a plastic...thing. Lars: That's amazing. Did you hear that? Bianca said God made her to help people.
— Gen. Omar Bradley, Patton (1970)Give George a headline, and he's good for another 30 miles.
— Patton, Patton (1970)(looking at remains of a battle) I love it! God help me, I love it so. I love it more than my life.
— Miles, Sideways (2004)If you don't have money at my age, you're not even in the game anymore. You're just a pasture animal waiting for the abattoir.
— Ron Franz, Into the Wild (2007)When you forgive, you love. And when you love, God's light shines on you.
— Parry, The Fisher King (1991)I have a hard-on for you the size of Florida!
— John Keating, Dead Poets Society (1989)The powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse. What will your verse be?
— Quintus & Maximus, Gladiator (2000)Quintus: "People should know when they're beaten!" Maximus: "Would you, Quintus? Would I?"
— Maximus, Gladiator (2000)I've seen much of the rest of the world. It is brutal and cruel and dark, Rome is the light.
— Jake Sully, Avatar (2009)All I ever wanted was a single thing worth fighting for.
— Patton, Patton (1970)No bastard ever won a war by dying for his country. You win a war by making the other poor bastard die for his country!
— Katsumoto & Nathan Algren, The Last Samurai (2003)Katsumoto: Do you believe a man can change his destiny? Algren: I think a man does what he can, until his destiny is revealed to him.
— Christopher McCandless, Into the Wild (2007)I read somewhere... how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong... but to feel strong.
— Christopher McCandless, Into the Wild (2007)The core of man's spirit comes from new experiences.
— Lester Burnham, American Beauty (1999)Look at me, jerking off in the shower... This will be the high point of my day; it's all downhill from here.
— Jack Lucas, The Fisher King (1991)I'm hearing horses! Parry will be so pleased!
— John Keating, Dead Poets Society (1989)Gather ye rosebuds while ye may, Old Time is still a-flying: And this same flower that smiles to-day To-morrow will be dying.
Hey guys,
I was made aware this weekend that there hasn’t been a link to a sitewide RSS feed on my site earlier. I have fixed that now. I hope it will make it easier for you to follow my work.
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This little piece totally got to me. Danny is such a Lover.
More stories like this on the StoryCorps website.
I have been paying some attention to what’s going on in North Africa these days. First Mubarak and now Gadhafi. Gadhafi is insane to the point of going to war with his own people. Now, clearly these are King archetypes on the active side of the shadow system. We know them as Tyrants.
I have been thinking lately about how most Western men seem to be more prone to passive shadow expressions. We collapse into the Weakling King, the Masochist Warrior, the Innocent Magician, and the Impotent Lover. The number of Tyrants in the West is miniscule compared to the number of Weaklings, especially in the younger generations.
These thoughts combined with my reflections on Gadhafi today made me wonder if there is a connection between the dominant gender and men’s shadow configurations. My claim is that women are the dominant gender in the West today. Most of society is defined relative to a woman’s and not a man’s perspective. Mothers, in general, exert much more influence on men than do their fathers. So the men collapse into the passive shadow expressions.
In societies where fathers are the most dominant, however, I think that men are more likely to express active shadow expressions. Clearly, Libya and Egypt are such socities.
This is a thought which is new to me and it may benefit from being somewhat “refined”. What do you guys think?
After a long wait, the video for the Warrior archetype is finally ready. (note that the 3-4 first minutes drag on a bit and then it gets more fun)
This video was recorded at the same time as the video for the King archetype (in Holland, December 2010) with Peter Kessels and Pelle Billing as my audience. I learned a lot by watching myself and receiving feedback from you after releasing that one and I would have done this video on the Warrior differently and more structured if I had a chance to redo the take. But I’m going to release it anyway, warts and all, and hope that it helps some of you. It has certainly helped me to record it.
I will record the Magician at the beginning of March. I will take whatever feedback you have offered me for the King and the Warrior (below) into consideration when doing that one.
I have also opened a discussion of this movie in the KWML group of The Masculinity Movies Tribe. I invite you all to participate there.
Dropped by a pub on the way from work today. Turned out the girl behind the bar was a girl I had connected quite strongly with some weeks previously. She was there with some cute friends. She expressed her appreciation for our connection by serving me for free. And I had a fairly decent connection with her friends as well.
Though I left the place feeling really dissatisfied. Actually, I felt rejected. Strange thing to feel I thought to myself. It got me thinking that feelings of rejection never have anything to do about anything outside of ourselves. It’s missing the point completely. Feelings of rejection arise when something authentic arises inside of ourselves and we choose not to act on or voice it.
That’s what happened today. I wasn’t present enough to really tune into my curiosity about these girls, so I kept it pretty safe and surface. My soul never appreciates that. There was so much I wanted to know that evaded me in moments when I wasn’t fully settled in myself.
There’s a lot of wisdom here for me. If I feel unhappy or depressed, it’s always because I’m out of alignment with my authentic Self, or my Soul if you will. There were things about these girls that I wasn’t aware of being curious about until after leaving the place. But on a deeper level, I knew.
Through feelings we label “bad”, we are always given exactly the information we need to be authentic. This human machine we inhabit is so amazing – we always get exactly the information we need to be absolutely blissful. The unhappiness arises in our rejections of the “bad” psychic material, which are nothing but perfectly crafted signposts that lead towards our authentic selves (joy is found there).
Feelings of rejection, depression, vague feelings of unease – always, ALWAYS these are treasures posing as shit. Our happiness comes in embracing the shit, because it’s always friggin’ gold. So I’m just going to sit with the ways in which I rejected myself now. Everything forever perfect. I make things so fucking complicated.